Ruby Bhatia has been making headlines for a while now, after fans started speculating about her financial situation. As India’s first VJ, it came as a surprise to many when Ruby turned away from fame at the peak of her career in search of spirituality. His approach to life has always been unconventional, rooted in detachment from celebrity culture and societal expectations. Unsurprisingly, her opinions on motherhood are also unfiltered. Ruby has openly admitted that she does not enjoy motherhood. In a recent interview, he also revealed that his children are not going to school, stating, “I don’t want them to be in a rat race.”
In an interview with Bollywood Thikana a few months ago, Ruby reflected on how life forced her to grow up early.
‘Exposed to a lot of things at a young age’
“My life had already been through a lot by the time I turned 25. My first marriage ended and I suddenly started questioning my purpose in India. I realized that I was here for spirituality; anchoring myself was just an excuse. I joined ISKCON at the age of 25 and it was amazing. It was like a dream come true. I dedicated my life to God. During that time, I also took up acting projects. My life became a balance between temple and filming.”
She spoke candidly about her first marriage to Nitin Bali and said, “I was 22 when I got married and he was 24. As we grew up, we wanted different things and we grew apart. It was painful.”
When Ruby got married for the second time
Almost a decade later, Ruby found love again with Ajeet Dutta. “We met at our Guruji’s ashram in Ranchi. He is also his disciple. We were both 35. It felt like a soulmate connection. We talked on the phone for 24 hours straight. Finally, we got married.”
However, after years of living independently and on her own terms, Ruby admits that marriage (and especially motherhood) was a shock.
Children are chaotic.
“Marriage was fine, but after we had kids, it was crazy. I went from total silence to total chaos. I have two kids, crying all day, changing diapers, gaining weight, starving myself to lose weight. Then I had my second child and went through it all again.” She added: “I wanted to do everything correctly, but I wasn’t used to this life. I fought through that phase and now that they are a little older, I can finally breathe.”
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When asked if she enjoyed motherhood, Ruby responded without hesitation: “Enjoy? Motherhood? Do you enjoy motherhood? I don’t know. I love my kids, they’re wonderful, but being their mom is extremely hard work. I prefer them when they’re sleeping.”
Explaining further, she said: “I enjoy the silence, the peace, the relaxation. Now I am constantly shouting and shouting, asking for some quiet. I won’t say I enjoy motherhood, but I have no other option, so I concentrate. After my children were born, I tried to take on hosting duties, but when I came back, their faces were swollen from crying. They missed me. That’s when I stopped working. I didn’t want to leave them with a maid.”
Still, Ruby recognized the emotional rewards of being a father. “The only thing you enjoy is when, after all the effort, they turn around and tell you they love you. That feels good. I don’t feel like a typical mom. I worked hard on my weight to make sure I looked the same. I may be a mom, but I’m not an aunt.”
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She added that she remains grateful that God has entrusted her with the responsibility of motherhood.
I don’t want my kids to be in a rat race.
In the same interview, Ruby also spoke about why she chose homeschooling for her children, stating that her lifestyle and philosophy did not align with the conventional education system in India.
“I am a thinker. I constantly question the purpose of life. Life is not just about growing up, getting married, having children and entering the rat race. The highest purpose of human life is harmony with God. He is the director of this production. Once you understand that, you want to truly enjoy life, and for that, you need time. I can’t keep running. Quality of life is important to me.”
She recalled briefly enrolling her children in a regular school, only to find the experience overwhelming.
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“I took my kids to school, but it became a marathon: exams, quizzes, projects, annual day, sports day. The kids were crying and the whole jhamela was stressful. I didn’t want that life. Then I talked to homeschoolers and learned that you can get certifications privately. They read six books, take a test, and pass. I don’t want my kids to be in a rat race.”
Ruby also expressed concern about modern school environments. “Now children are exposed to drugs and alcohol from a very early age. I didn’t want that. Schools also instill unnecessary complexes in them.”
He concluded by saying: “It is time for the education system to change. Schools must focus on teaching life skills.”